Having been in the middle of the drama, I can tell you that it’s totally different than when you’re looking at it from the outside. You feel like things will never get better and you should resolve to just accept it, you don’t know where to start to fix things or if they can even be fixed, and, you beat yourself up wondering how you could have done things differently so as not to be in this predicament. It takes a toll on your confidence and your self-esteem. It can even plunge you into depression and addictions. Well, I would like to tell you, that it does get better. It may or may not be the outcome you were hoping for, but the universe has a way of setting you on the right path as long as you are willing to follow it. Now, I feel and know that I’m in a much better place especially since I’ve dealt with most of the emotional trauma that was imposed on me but that I also imposed on myself. I’m more comfortable in my skin, mostly in a happy place in my head(always a work in progress) and I’m enjoying life.
So now, I’m on the other side of the coin. Watching family and friends going through their own struggles is actually much more difficult, because you often feel helpless with the situation and it seriously pulls at your heartstrings. Whether it’s a physical ailment, emotional disorder, difficulties with children or dissatisfaction in marriages, it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you’re stuck on the other side of the bend. And waiting for a catalyst to propel you forward is usually emotionally draining. So, this is the time to lean on your friends and family, listen to their advice because they can see a bigger picture than you can, at this moment. It doesn't mean you have to take that advice, but consider it. Don’t ever think that you are being a burden. You are not, ever. Remember that they wouldn’t be there for you if they didn’t want to. They do it because they love you and they want you to be happy. They do it because they believe in you when you find it difficult to believe in yourself.
It’s great to have support but getting to that happy place still takes work, changes in lifestyle, letting go of old ideals and attachments, and realizing that you are worthy of that happy ending. Sometimes things work out the way you hoped and sometimes it doesn't, it’s up to each individual to make the best of the outcome.
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Lots of love,
Julie xx
Jules, it is so great to hear (or read) how well you're doing. You are inspiring because you have overcome the fear and hurdles to make the positive changes in your life you needed to become happier. It's so hard to let go of old habits, old thinking, and especially, to deviate from the path you'd envision yourself taking. That's a scary move to make but you did it.
ReplyDeleteWe can even have personal struggles that are less grave; we may have changes we need to make to improve ourselves, in different ways, whether emotional, mental, physical... changes that will make our lives more fulfilling. But taking the leap from the safe and familiar is difficult. Thanks you for sharing your personal journey, it helps me with my own choices, to hear of your struggles and successes. I love that you are creating your life, living with intention, choosing your life rather than just living by default. Brava!